Do you berate yourself for tiny mistakes? If so, you are not alone. Women with ADHD struggle with the need to try and be perfect. (This is a myth btw, no one is perfect!)
The 5x5 rule: if you won’t remember it in 5 years, the mistake is worth 5 mins of your thought and time.
This won’t always be easy but try it anyways. You could even set a timer. Allow yourself to feel your feelings during these 5 minutes. Shame, anger, fear, etc. When the timer is up, try your best to let it go.
I use essential oils to help me let things go.
What do you think? 5 years from now do you think you’ll remember these mistakes? Can you let it go if you allowed yourself to actually feel your feelings for a full 5 minutes?
I’ve said before and I’ll say it again (and again I’m sure!) that communication is a key to success for those of us with ADHD.
Some quick tips:
- You don’t need to express every thought, feeling immediately. Take the time to stop and ask yourself if it is critical that this needs to be said at this moment
- If you are one to have a flurry of words, remind the person you’re speaking with that you know this to be an issue and to be patient. Then regroup and try again
- When you notice you are changing subjects rapidly, enlist other’s to help you stay on track. Admit that you’ve done it again, then return to the original topic until it is finished
- A challenge is tuning other’s out so repeatedly ask yourself “am I listening?” Then, listen!
- The blame game is never one that anyone wins at, if you find yourself playing then take a step back and break from the conversation. You can revisit later.
- It is most frustrating when during a convo, you’ve forgotten everything you wanted to discuss, all your thoughts, all your feelings. Before an important convo, write it down so you can have a ‘script’ ‘
Which of these do you find you have the most trouble with?
A tip! Utilize a standing desk if you can! If you’re like me and many others, I have trouble sitting still. Oof, remember having to do that during school?? We’ve replaced school with work and I still have trouble sitting still!
A standing desk allows me to move freely, shift around on my feet and stay on track because I’m not focused on my need to move. I am moving!
Do you use a standing desk? Do you enjoy it?
Let’s celebrate our ADHD today. It seems like sometimes it drags us down but there are also benefits to it!
You tend to be highly creative.
You tend to think outside the box and have unique solutions to problems. You tend to find joy in small pleasures of life.
You tend to be caring and empathetic.
You are you and there is no one better at doing that job.
What’s your favorite thing about your ADHD?
Let music focus you or let you relax. Do you ever listen to a song while trying to focus but you end up just singing along instead?? Pick those karaoke type songs for when your brain needs a little relaxation. Choose songs without lyrics for times you need a little background noise but need to stay focused too.
Anyone have any song suggestions that they like to listen to for focus time??